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In hypnosis, you get more of what you focus on.
Peaceful people, groups, situations and circumstances are attracted to persons who are at peace with themselves.
Chaos, violence, hate, paranoia, fear, negativity are attracted to people who are not in peace with themselves.
You don't attract what you want. You attract who you are.
Everything that's happening in your life right now, Including the
When you alter your thoughts towards people, groups, situations and circumstances... people, groups, situations and circumstances will alter towards you.
You can't change other people.
For things to change, you have to change.
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Are some people born destined for greatness and others for mediocrity? Is great success and achievement determined by genetics and inborn talent?
The simple answer is “no.” Greatness can be attained by everyone. We all have the potential to be great. Any man can be great if he makes up his mind to be the best person he can possibly be and to do what he does, the best way he can possibly do it.
The call to greatness – the secret
The secret to attaining greatness is simply to do every small thing in a great way. It is the nature of all success principles to be overly simplistic and basic. That is what makes them so true and yet so hard to accept and do. Their simplicity means that they often cannot be reduced to any simpler statement. It is like Albert Einstein’s E=MC². It takes a whole lot of thinking and meandering to come up with the principle. But once it is found, it is so obvious and so simple.
Vincent Van Gogh said “Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.” This view is supported by recent scientific studies that studied many great men and women to find out what it takes to be great. Geoffrey Colvin, a senior editor for Fortune magazine reported, based on the findings of these scientific studies, that “the lack of natural talent is irrelevant to great success. The secret? Painful and demanding practice and hard work.”
What I do not agree with in this statement is the concept of “hard work.” Practice and consistency are important and so is work, but sometimes it only has to be “smart” and not hard. The point, though, is that the evidence does not support the notion that excelling is a consequence of possessing innate gifts.
The call to greatness – the basic ingredients
So what makes for excellence? The studies point to two major things. Work and practice. There's no evidence of high-level performance without experience or practice. According to Colvin, “reinforcing that no-free-lunch finding is vast evidence that even the most accomplished people need around ten years of hard work before becoming world-class, a pattern so well established researchers call it the ten-year rule”.
Tiger Woods, for instance, seems to have suddenly shot to fame at age 18 when he became the youngest-ever winner of the U.S. Amateur Championship. Few people realise that by that age he had at least 15 years experience and practice playing golf. That’s not something the press will tell you often. So in this fast food, fast service, instant communication world we have been fooled into thinking even success and greatness are instant. They are not. Practice and experience takes time and effort.
The call to greatness – can it be that simple?
People hate the idea that if they found their talent and worked at it they too could find fame and fortune. The idea that only a few are gifted and can attain greatness is a big cushion for them to fall on and comfort themselves. That way when they fail at something they can give up and simply say they don’t have the genes or talent for it. That’s much easier than thinking that you have been lazy, inconsistent and undetermined in your pursuits. Therefore, with some consistent work and practice at something any one of us can become great.
So what is greatness and why should you work towards greatness? Greatness, I believe, is the ability to be all that you can possibly be and to bring out the very best in yourself consistently to such an extent that you make a lasting mark in the lives of other people and in the world at large. I believe Arthur G. Keough held this view when he said “Greatness is not standing above our fellows and ordering them around, it is standing with them and helping them to be all they can be.”
The call to greatness – you are already great
The potential in every man is such that it cannot be utilised to its full extent without bringing about greatness. So as far as why you should work towards greatness is concerned the simple answer is that you should not work towards greatness as such. Simply work towards fulfilling your fullest potential as a human being by performing your simple tasks excellently. Seek to always grow beyond your present barriers and limits and you will inevitably become great.
Meet the challenges you face head-on and take life on with passion and a quest for excellence. “There aren’t any great men. There are just great challenges that ordinary men are forced to meet.” Most so called great men, as William H. Halsey observed when he said those words, were not working to become great men, but they ended being so as a by-product of doing what they knew best to do. In the book Good to Great, Jim Collins stated that “those who strive to turn good to great find the process no more painful or exhausting than those who settle for just letting things wallow along in mind-numbing mediocrity.”
The call to greatness – equal effort, different results
It takes no more effort and energy to be great than to be mediocre. It is the application of that effort and energy that matters. You can channel it into more productive pursuits and use of your time or channel it into non-progressive endeavors. If you could buy a Mercedes for the same price as a Toyota, which one would you go for? If you could apply the same amount of energy and effort to greatness as to mediocrity, which would one you go for?
The call to greatness - conclusion
Simple things like reading, working consistently and practice will make all the difference and help you attain greatness in whatever you choose to do. Nothing happens by chance. In the words of Geoffrey Colvin: “Maybe we can't expect most people to achieve greatness. It's just too demanding. But the striking, liberating news is that greatness isn't reserved for a preordained few. It is available to you and to everyone. “
God desires that you be great. The Psalmist said of Him: “Thou shalt increase my greatness, and comfort me on every side.”
“You are all you can be. Go on and be it.” ~~anonymous
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"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it."- Marcus Aurelius
As a man thinks in his heart so is he. This verse alone from the bible proves what power we have in our thoughts.
Your thoughts are very powerful. It could affect 'literally' the people and the environment around you. How unfortunate it is that people take for granted the power of their thoughts.
We must not excuse ourselves as so many do, by saying undesirable feelings are natural under certain conditions, we must assert our power to take control of our minds and emotions and not let our emotions control us.
A grumbling and fault-finding attitude towards others is unfortunately sadly common at the present day. And those who make it a habit never seem to realize the harm that they are doing.
If we study its result we shall see that the habit of malicious gossip is nothing short of wicked. It does not matter if the gossip is true or not in either case it can cause only harm.
Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.- Franklin D. Roosevelt
Suppose a number of people 'suspects' another person of jealousy. And these group of people starts to spread gossips and pour their thoughts and energy and tell other groups of people(they even post it on facebook or twitter<-worse!) about this person they are accusing of jealousy.
Isn't it obvious that if the poor man these people are accusing has any tendency towards that unpleasant quality, it cannot but greatly intensified in him because, of the thoughts they have been sending and gossiping about the individual?
And if, as is commonly the case, that the person these people are gossiping about, does not have that characteristic of jealousy, because of their gossiping and thoughts they would create jealousy in the affairs of the person being accused.
No wonder most famous people becomes unstable look at Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Mo twister, Macapagal Arroyo and the combined negative thought of the whole nation focused towards them. Makes sense?
"For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me."-Job 3:25
Think of your friends, love ones and any person by all means, but think of their good points, not because that it is much healthier for you but because by doing so you strengthen them.
When you are reluctantly compelled to recognize the presence of some undesirable quality in a person, take special care not to think of it, BUT to think instead of the opposite virtue which you wish him to develop.
If he happens to have a bad attitude and easily gets angry, carefully avoid gossiping about his defect or even fixing your thought upon it, because if you do, the vibration which you will send to him will simply make matters worse. Instead of that, think with all your strength of the quality which he needs, flood him with the patience and peace, for in that way you will really help your brother.
"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it."- Marcus Aurelius
Just imagine the effect of this, if you start to think positive thoughts towards your father, mother, husband, wife, son, daughter, relatives, cousin, girlfriend, boyfriend, maid, driver, neighbor, work colleagues, friends, stranger, teacher, waiter, waitress, security guards, the man on the street, the beggar, the street children, celebrities,
politicians, the president, our justices, our government, our country, other nations and the world? Ask yourselves, are you part of the solution or the problem?
"Thought creates character."- Annie Besant
You may start to make it a habit to think good and kindly thoughts, and your minds will begin to work more easily along the lines of admiration and appreciation instead of along those of suspicion and negativity. If you do make it a habit of practicing good and kindly thoughts you shall very soon begin to perceive the results of this positive habit in your life.
Use your thoughts in ways such us these and you will become a bonfire of blessing in your corner of the world.
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." -Philippians 4:8
Saturday, January 07, 2012
Ego and Self Esteem
We’re all born with self-esteem. There is no such thing as a shy baby – it just expects (and of course needs!) to be loved, taken care of, served etc. A baby never doubts himself or his sense of value – he cannot even conceive of doing so.
Then life happens: children get hurt, disappointed, ignored, yelled at, talked down to… so many things happen that shake us from that natural foundation.
Of course at the time we were too young to have the knowledge or resources to deal with the problem, so we come up with a plan B – stories that we tell ourselves about why we’re still worthwhile. This is what we call the “Ego” (this has little to do with Freud’s conception).
So some children have the story that they’re smart: they do well at school because they crave the love and attention they think this gets them. They have forgotten that they can be loved for just who they are. Others do it by being funny, show offs, rebellious… walk into any school and you’ll see these stories being formed and reinforced.
These stories are NOT us. They are not even true. Ironically, it is these stories that keep us from our personal power.
The Ego is a dissociated entity – it is an intellectual construct that is not plugged into our true nature. As such, all energy spent on the story is like blowing hard on a piece of paper to keep it floating. When your breath runs out – it comes crashing down.
The Ego feeds off other people’s responses. If they pay attention to you, it feels good. If they ignore (or criticize) you, the Ego panics – it’s happy little world is now threatened and it will do whatever it can to get back to the status quo. Even if that means sabotaging positive changes!
The Ego creates a strange pseudo-confidence that only functions in very tightly managed circumstances (if at all!). Outside of that we tend to lose confidence (like when we try and learn something new and feel afraid of failing).
One reason for this fear is “cognitive dissonance” – we have a mental image of how we want to be perceived, which we try to project to the outside world. This is the flawless “perfect person” most of us think we should be. But inside, we don’t feel like that. So we have an internal battle or clash between who we try to make others think we are and what we think we really are. The larger that gap, the more psychic pain we feel in trying to “perform”.
A performer is either constantly rehearsing to stay “in the zone” or she risks getting performance anxiety when she starts up again. Contrast this with an enthusiast that just loves what she does and doesn’t care how good it is. She cannot get performance anxiety as she has nothing to prove (but only enjoys)! Often her rate of progress (measured by time spent on a task) is also faster.
The Ego constantly demands external acceptance to keep it afloat. If you with hold this
acceptance, it starts to get desperate and will eventually crash. This is the source of much of people’s “bi-polar” experience in life: great highs followed by periods of lows.
Power and Force: The Question Of Ego
The desire to be “one up” or be better than someone else in some way is an Ego driven desire. Someone with true Self Esteem simply does not care if others are better or worse than him, because his sense of value and importance does not come from being compared to others (i.e.,external reinforcers).
Many people are drawn to developing themselves because they think it will give them power over others. Unfortunately they initially miss the point: true power comes from inside – it is about being able to move through the world unhindered. Like a candle that shines in a storm just as brightly without any fear of ever going out.
Power is the ability to be in command of the self at any moment so that no matter what the
external circumstances are you have complete access to all your internal resources so you can make the maximum positive impact that is possible for you at that time.
So power is independent of external forces. When people seek power over others – they use Force, not true Power!
Force ends up doing as much harm to the operator as to the subject – because it reinforces the ego boom-bust cycle. In fact, the more Force “Power” you have the more erratic these cycles become (i.e., higher highs and lower lows).
You see this in people that get thrust into “power positions” by fate: e.g., new rock or film stars, business gurus, politicians. If they have not been prepared for their sudden rise to power (e.g., through many years of hard work to understand the illusion of what they end up with) they go through an intense period. Sometimes they come out with true inner power. Sometimes they come out more neurotic than ever before – addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or other problem behaviours.
Another important distinction between Power & Force is that people tend to resist being forced.
However, they are naturally inclined to surrender to Power.
Ego Protection Mechanisms
• Ego has a story to maintain (known as “Saving Face”)
• It will manipulate others to their detriment to save face
• It tries to create fear in you to prevent you from doing something where you might lose
face – i.e., where your story might get exposed as a lie (e.g. Performance Anxiety)
• It tends to blame others for mistakes or try to rationalize failures
• It is external to the self, so constantly needs to be reinforced merely to exist!
Ego Based Beliefs Are Weak
• They need external support (validation, acceptance, admiration etc) or they crumble.
• They prevent you from making the mistakes you need to in order to learn. Your learning
increases with the amount of things you’re willing to do wrong!
• It is more important to “save face” (i.e., preserve the story) than it is to get results. This is
the source of much of the destructive “Corporate Politics” that can be witnessed.
• It gives your true power away – you need others to validate, accept and admire you
instead of finding everything you need inside yourself!
How to Take Control of The Ego
• Know Your Self
• Your Identity – Who Are You?
• Your Values – What Is Important To You?
• Your Expectations – How Should The World Treat You?
• Deliberately Challenge The Story – have objectives that are not tied up with looking
good. E.g., when playing tennis, don’t play to win, but see if you can make the ball spin
one way or another.
This is about feeling the fear and doing it anyway. It is about putting movement back into
those parts of life that have become paralyzed by the Ego’s attempts at maintaining its
Remember: What You Resist, Persists! So just accept it and get on with life anyway.
We all tend to be “addicted” to certain ways of being. We’ll unconsciously manufacturer
situations or excuses to feel angry, sad, frustrated, helpless etc. If you discover that you’re
getting “upset” once again, don’t take it too seriously. It’s just your body detoxing from
years of bad habits!
• Let Go Of The Outcome – this does NOT mean don’t have any goals! Simply don’t rely
on your goals for your sense of value. Goals are about directions not about points.